One of the key fundamentals when learning anger management counseling techniques is to understand that anger is considered a symptom, not the problem; although anger can cause considerable problems. People usually get angry to regain power and control, as well as, to avoid vulnerable feelings such as shame, guilt, rejection, hopelessness, or helplessness.
To live the life you have always wanted, many of us need to thoroughly deal with the source of these feelings and the resulting emotions. You have every right to the feelings you experience; however, it is reaction to these feelings that impact relationships. It is important that you deal with these issues now before your partner leaves you, work performance becomes an issue, or the courts force you to seek therapy and anger management training.
Through anger management coaching we can teach you how to deal with painful feelings and control your reaction ultimately leading to more healthy relationships. To help you begin dealing with your anger right now, it is important to understand people who experience anger usually struggle with one or more types of anger. Below are the 10 most common types of anger and our treatment approach.
Anger Management Counseling 10 Common Types of Anger
Buried Anger
People who are not aware that they are angry, but experience physical symptoms (depression, anxiety, ulcers, etc.)
Hidden Anger
People who are aware that they are angry, but choose to hide it from others.
Sneaky Anger
People who procrastinate, gossip and use the silent treatment when they are angry at others.
Paranoid Anger
People who think that you are angry at them without any evidence to prove otherwise.
Impulsive Anger
People who have a short fuse and explode without considering the consequences.
Shame-based Anger
People who attempt to cover-up their imperfections with perfectionism and become rage-filled when they fail.
Intentional Anger
People who use anger to intimidate, threaten, and bully others in order to get what they want.
Mood-Altering Anger
People who use anger to elevate their mood when they are feeling depressed.
Habitual Anger
People who find anything to be angry about 24/7.
Defensive Anger
People who use anger to protect themselves against others who have been hurtful and are unable to forgive them.
Righteous Anger
People who believe they are moral and justified in their fighting for something greater than themselves.
Treatment Approach and Goals
A treatment approach is listed below to define the road to recovery.
- Identify one or more of the 10 types of anger that personally applies.
- Recognize the signs, symptoms, and impact of anger.
- Identify impaired thinking that promotes anger.
- Learn strategies to manage anger more effectively.
- Learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy anger.
- Reduce the body tension of anger by learning de-escalation (isometric/deep-breathing techniques).
- Learn conflict resolution skills.